Welcome! I am SO glad you are curious about how to communicate with more ease and power!
First, I have to say that my friend, who is also a client and colleague, said to me “If there is one thing that helped me most when we started together it was “how to have a tricky conversation when I wanted to vomit … you should record how to do THAT for the people who come to your site!” And so here it is :) I recorded this video for a business group while in Bali but the essence is timeless and gives you the components to having a transparent conversation.
Transparency is a key ingredient to ending anxiety, being more powerful, having more intimacy and a host of other great outcomes.
It means not hiding … and as a result, not wasting energy. It is a game changer. It certainly has changed my life so much.
Fear of conflict and tricky conversations is a big consumer of energy.
Thinking, strategizing, defending, proving,explaining and avoiding all consume vital energy resources and as a result, dis-empower you.
Transparency not a complex concept, yet we have few models of how to do it. It’s one of those things that can feel challenging in the beginning but with practice you can become masterful and as you get better at it all of your interactions will feel more fluid and easy. Even when you’re entering into conflict or uncertainty, having the practices of transparent communication at your fingertips will change your whole experience.
Transparency will ultimately not take time and energy to prepare for. It is a practice of being present and responsive (power) instead of being in your head and reacting (draining power.)
And this is not just about you, your power and openness will ripple out to those around you giving them new opportunities.
In my experience, investing attention into learning how to communicate transparently is one of those areas that will pay you back 100 times what you put into it. So be open, be curious, and be willing to test it out and explore and fail and then succeed.
Watch the video below and then see the attachment the 4 components below for reference.
If you are curious to explore this more or have me reflect back how you are doing, you can always set up a free call with me to have a conversation.
And here are some examples as to how to start communicating transparently:
PS. Please don’t confuse transparency with radical honesty. “I’m just being honest” is most often blame or passive-aggressive behavior in disguise. And its usually from our own personal limited viewpoint, it is a story rather than the expression of what we are feeling or experiencing.
